Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Angels, Alligators and Crocodiles

Last time we met I talked to you about using meditation to relieve stress. Another very important way of dealing with stress is exercising. I didn’t talk about that and just so you know, I’m not going there. Every magazine, in fact, every where I look, there’s another article on running, jogging, working out – exercising until we drop. While I truly believe in the importance and value of exercising, I’m going to leave that to others because they seem to be doing a great job. Of all the stress relieving activities, I personally prefer walking. It’s easy on the body and if you’re lucky enough to be able to walk where you are surrounded by nature, then it’s soothing as well. However, to my way of thinking, if you don’t solve or eliminate some of the problems, meaning stress causes, you’re never going to get there. You are just going to stress, exercise, stress, exercise.

Let me help you identify, lessen or eliminate your stress so that you can better listen and connect with your inner voice. When you can relax and hear your inner voice, you will begin to enjoy life more fully. You will hear and be where you are meant to be in this life.

Your body has a system that sends you alerts when stress levels rise. And, your Angels are always at your side helping you beware of things that stress you out. What I want to talk about now is people who cause you stress.

Certain people are major contributors to your stress. I call them alligators and crocodiles. There are a lot of similarities between the two legged and the four legged gators. Let me introduce you to both. The four-legged alligators are long, green, lizards usually found in swamps. They go after small prey - rabbits, chickens, etc. These lizards have a very threatening appearance. Did I mention their teeth? Usually not aggressive towards humans but none the less, those teeth strike a note of fear in all of us. Crocodiles are a bigger more threatening gator. They go after larger prey, fearlessly. They are aggressive and go after goats, deer, cows and sometimes people. Both alligators and crocodiles use those teeth to latch on to their prey, drag them into the water but the killer is this. They twist and twist until they drown their victim. Then they just let their victim marinate a few days in the mud before they actually devour it.

Does any of this sound familiar? Ever feel like certain people just drag you down? Long after they have left your company, do you still feel wounded? Do certain people always make you feel bad about yourself, question yourself or in general make you feel uncomfortable? Well, guess what. Those are the two legged gators and some are quite vicious (crocodiles). They are a major contributing source to your stress.

Look around you. Who do you know? Who came to mind when I described the four legged critters. Who are the people in your life that have sharp teeth that bite into you but it doesn’t stop there. They twist and twist until you think you’re going to drown. Their remarks linger long after they are gone. Identification is your first step to lessening the stress caused by these people. Who are they? Where are they? Don’t just look around you at work, look at home, look at your family, yes even in your circle of friends.

Second step is to minimize your exposure to these people. They will sap all your energy and push all your stress buttons. They not only do immediate damage but they do long term damage as well. Sort of like that marinate in the mud thing. Be resourceful, get creative, and find ways to avoid these people whenever possible. Can’t avoid? Minimize the time you spend with or around them.

Now here’s a thought. You could move, leave no forwarding address, and get an unpublished phone number. You would have to give up your cell phone because they can track you anywhere with that technology. Of course, this usually is not possible, nobody wants to move and I don’t know anyone who is going to give up their cell phone. Besides, I am convinced the gators only follow you.

Third and most important step is to learn to tune them out. The power to focus, tune out and let go of negativity are real, strong reasons as to why meditate. Tuning out negative people and their attitudes will keep you focused at work, at home or at play. Meditation will give you that power to tune out. It will also enable you to let go of the stress these people cause you. Best advice is identify the negative people in your life, avoid and/or minimize exposure to these people and learn the relaxation techniques of meditation.

Whether you are experienced or beginning meditation, my Studio provides you the guidance and solitude you need. Hope to see you here soon.

Intuitively speaking,

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